Attending your first sex party can be extremely intimidating and naturally comes with a lot of questions. But not all of us have a kink-friendly bestie that’s ready to answer all of your questions without any judgement. That’s what this blog is for. This blog is going to teach you the proper sex club etiquette and answer all of those burning questions you have no one to ask. *If you still have questions, please feel free to reach out to our team directly at playatdexranch@gmail.com*
What is a Sex Party?
A sex party is a public space where folks may or may not be having sex. Most venues for sex parties will have intimate spaces that are both private and public, but the idea is to embrace that inner exhibitionist. Sex parties can be held at someones home, at a sex club, or a variety of venues. Depending on the size of the party and venue, sex parties can be really close and intimate or more casual.
Do I Have to Have Sex at a Sex Party?
NO! Not at all. In fact there are folks that come to sex parties every month and never engage in sexual intercourse. Guests are encouraged to mix in mingle in whatever fashion feels best for them. A sex party can be a great place to make kink-friendly friends, explore new kinks and fetishes, and be a part of a community.
What Do I Do at a Sex Party?
It is totally normal to be a little overwhelmed with the newness of experiencing a sex party, so going with an open mind is key. Find a comfy chair where you can take it all in and after a few moments you can decide whether you want to watch or play. If you do chose to simply observe, please be sure to get consent from the kinksters before lingering for too long.
It is also common for there to be a thing called “tastings” at sex parties. Tastings can come in a variety of kinks like fire, impact, rope, needle or many more. Someone who has never experienced a kink before but has always been curious can chose to receive a tasting from someone well versed in the kink in a safe space.
Good Sex Party Etiquette
More so than at any other party, it is important you are of sound mind at a sex party. While a drink or two might be harmless for some folks, only you know your real limits. Don’t get drunk at a sex party. Always ask for consent before watching or physically engaging with other kinksters. Always discuss boundaries, STI status, and safe words before playing with new partners.